Birthdays are a gift from God. Each of us should be thankful for every year of life our Heavenly Father allows us to live. Personally, I have never been one to tell my age. As I approach my 70th birthday, however, I am reminded of this saying: “Count not the candles, see the light they give; Count not the years, but the life you live.” With this thought in mind, I find myself reflecting on the span of my life; the valleys, the mountaintops, and everything in between.
I am truly thankful for 70 years of life (1947-2017). God has abundantly blessed me. However, as I begin preparations for the 2018 DBRS (Daily Bible Reading Schedule), I am reminded of a far greater and more significant milestone in my life. In the coming year, 2018, I will celebrate 50 years of spiritual birth (1968-2018).
The Bible tells us there is a time and a season for all things [Ecclesiastes 3:1]. Looking back, I realize I have weathered the storms and seasons of life according to God’s plan; not my own. I marvel at the grace of God when I think of living the last 50 years as a saved, born-again child of God. When I surrendered my heart and life to Jesus, I had absolutely no idea of the changes that would take place in my life.
For 30 years, I did my best to serve the Lord while at the same time balancing a career, marriage and family obligations. Life had its ups and downs, but I was content and happy knowing that God was in control of my life and nothing could come against me without first going through God.
The last 20 years (1998-2018), however, have been the best and most rewarding years of my life. “What,” you might ask, “has made the difference?” The answer is not what, but whom; the Holy Spirit has made the difference. He came to dwell in my heart the moment I accepted Christ as my Saviour. He was my teacher and guide for 30 years; yet, I never really knew Him or the source of His power. In these past few years, my faith has been elevated to a new level as I have learned to acknowledge and yield to the Holy Spirit in all my ways.
I do not know what challenges might unfold in the next chapter of my life. It is my fervent prayer that God will allow me to serve Him; to be “used of Him” to bring honor, and glory, and praise to His holy name all the days of my life. I want my life to be a testimony to my family; to those living today, and to those yet unborn. I want that testimony to magnify the Lord and reveal what God can accomplish in a life that is surrendered; totally yielded to His will.
For that reason, I want to share some highlights of my life. I will share them, in no particular order; rather as the Holy Spirit leads and to the extent the Spirit gives liberty.
Sacrificial Obedience
This was a lesson I learned early on in my new Christian life. At the time I accepted Christ as my Saviour, I acknowledged Him as Lord of my life. I surrendered my life and relinquished every aspect of my will. Having come to the end of my rope, so to speak, I felt I had nothing to lose. I felt miserable and hopeless. I believed that whatever life God might have in mind for me would be better than the life I was living. It never really occurred to me that my life would have any real significance in the will of Almighty God. I could not fathom a life I deemed so worthless having any value in service to God.
There came a time, however, when my commitment to Christ was tested. In the late 70s, we were actively involved in a dynamic, Spirit-filled church. We were accustomed to sharing “manna from Heaven” in our worship services. Sadly, the church closed its doors and the pastor and his family moved away. I was devastated. We had developed a close friendship with the pastor and his wife. As they left town, they extended an invitation and opportunity for us to go with them, helping start a new Bible-believing church in another state.
In the days and weeks that followed, God began speaking to my heart about moving, as well. I began to feel a strong conviction that this was God’s will for us. I mustered the courage to talk with my husband; only to find he, too, was under conviction. We were both excited about the prospect of being involved in a new work for the Lord. We were willing, and eager, to forsake it all; our jobs, home – everything. Well, maybe not everyone. My mother was the dearest soul on earth to me. I had vowed never to intentionally hurt her or cause her pain. How could I possibly think of moving out of state, leaving her alone? We were inseparable throughout my life; we needed each other. I knew the news would leave her heartbroken and I could not bear the thought of making her cry. As I poured out my heart to God, I was reminded of my vow to surrender my life to His will. I knew way down in the depths of my heart that I could not ignore God’s call on my life. I believed I would never again experience the peace and blessings of God that I had come to enjoy if I failed to obey. I knew, too, that if it were truly God’s will for us to leave my mother that God would take care of her.
Telling my mother about the decision we had made was the hardest thing I have ever done in my entire life. That weekend, we loaded up the car and set out to tour the area where we were going for places to live. As hard as it was for me to leave my mother, I felt a sense of peace and anticipation for the future. As the miles passed before us, I began to replay the memories of the past several months in my mind. I had never been happier. I was growing spiritually and I was burdened more and more for family and friends that were lost or not attending church. I wanted so much for others to know the spiritual awakening that I had come to know and experience. Many happy thoughts danced through my head. My mind, however, kept coming back to loved ones at home that might never know or experience the joy of the Lord or the excitement that filled my soul. Soon, the conviction I was feeling for leaving subsided. The Holy Spirit replaced that conviction with a burning desire to stay at home and reach the lost in my own hometown. After all we had been through, I felt anxious; wondering how I could be having these feelings now. I asked my husband to share his thoughts; what was going through his mind, I wondered. Surprisingly, he had begun to have doubts about leaving home, as well.
Needless to say, we turned around and came home. I consider this to be one of the greatest milestones in my life. I can look back now and realize that God has allowed me to accomplish things for His glory that would not have been possible if I had failed God’s trial of my faith. For this reason, the Biblical account of Abraham and Isaac is one of my all-time favorites. As God tested Abraham and his willingness to sacrifice Isaac in obedience to God’s command; so was my faith tested in leaving my mother.
Wilderness Experience
As I look back now through a veil of time and from a higher vantage point, I see the greater portion of my Christian walk was through the wilderness. It was a time of teaching, testing, polishing, pruning, and molding me into the servant God wanted me to be. One of the most important lessons I have learned, spiritually, is that God’s will and plan for my life does not manifest itself overnight.
In those early years, I did not know much about the Holy Spirit. I can see now that there were many times when the Holy Spirit was at work in my heart, leading and guiding me into service through His convicting power. And, there were times when I simply followed my own heart.
God is pleased when we actively reach out to others and share the Gospel, His love; anything that brings glory and honor to His name. I believe as long as the deed is righteous and good, it will no doubt please the Father. My service and any aspect of my outreach, however; regardless of how pleasing it may be to the Father, does not necessarily mean it is the perfect will of God for my life. Grasping the difference in simply serving God and being used of God to accomplish His will in my life just might be the hardest lesson I have ever had to learn.
The Journey Begins
After being saved, I joined the church where I grew up from childhood. I was baptized and married in that same church. It never entered my mind that I would ever leave; but God had other plans. A few months after marriage, the church year was coming to an end and the Sunday School Superintendent asked for volunteers to teach the younger children. To my astonishment, I was approached and asked if I would consider teaching. My immediate response was absolutely not; no need to think about it. I knew my limitations and teaching, especially children, was not my calling. But then the Holy Spirit began working in my heart. I did not understand why but I felt a compelling urge to volunteer. Once again, I recalled my vow of surrender; I must obey. So, I volunteered. Now, in my mind, I was simply volunteering to “help” or assist in teaching. I knew I was not spiritually equipped to teach; but I was willing to learn. Then came the blow; I was told by my pastor I was not faithful enough to teach in his church. What was I to do? How could I obey God if I was not permitted to do that which God had placed on my heart? While I was still walking around in a bewildered daze, my husband made the decision to leave the church. And so, we began our journey into a wilderness of spiritual drought and uncertainty.
Home Again
Years later, God allowed us to come home. A friend told us of the pastor’s soon departure; we returned the week following with much joy. Through the years, I had returned to my home church from time to time; but never felt any peace or the liberty to remain. I always harbored a little bitterness in my heart because of the way we left; because of the way I was treated. One day years later, through the Spirit’s teaching, I understood that the pastor’s actions were not necessarily his own for God uses people to accomplish His will. I could see through spiritual eyes that it was necessary to embark on this unknown journey to reach my current destination. I let go of the bitterness toward the man and the circumstances; and the void was filled with peace.
Turbulence Ahead
Fast-forward about 20 years from salvation; I was faithfully attending church, teaching Sunday school, and trying to live for the Lord. My mother was now disabled and totally dependent on me for care. My career was experiencing a bit of turbulence. Changes in corporate headquarters brought about some changes on the local level. My responsibilities shifted and the weight on my shoulders became lighter; so much so that I began having more and more free time. As always, I enjoyed the work and found a challenge in doing my best. I was accustomed to working 12-14 hours a day, balancing several equally demanding responsibilities. I began to relish the slower pace. I began to enjoy my times of solitude, often drifting off into a new found dream world.
God had given me a passionate love for my Sunday school class; a group of 4 & 5 year olds. They were a big part of my life and consumed a great deal of my time and energy. My husband and I spent our Saturdays visiting these children and their families. Getting to know their parents and siblings helped me identify with their needs and sensitivities on a more personal basis. I was always looking for ways to reach them and keep them in Sunday school. So, these precious little ones found their way into my thoughts and daydreams much of the time.
Opportunity Knocks
One day a postcard found its ways to my desk. It was an advertisement addressed to no one in particular. The card offered an opportunity to purchase a home business, publishing children’s books. Thinking of my children, I looked closer to see if any of the books were about Jesus. Sadly, they were not. I could not bring myself to throw the card away, however, so I put it away inside my desk drawer. In the days and weeks that followed, I pulled that card out numerous times. You see, God had planted a seed of desire in my heart and mind; and I could not dismiss it. I began to fantasize more and more about the prospect of rewriting the original books with Jesus as the theme in each book. My mind ran wild as I envisioned myself with all of these resources at my fingertips. But this was just a dream, I would sigh and remind myself; I knew I could never afford to quit my job.
Crossroads Ahead
In due time, there was another upset on the horizon; my job was to be eliminated. I could transfer to the home office or take early retirement. At first, the news struck me like a bolt of lightning. I was indeed shaken; but I knew in my heart that it was God that had placed me in a career path all those years ago. My security had been threatened a number of times, but God always intervened and His will prevailed. On the way home, I began to cry uncontrollably; pouring out my heart to God. My mind ran the course of logical thinking; “What would I do, how would we survive?” I knew there was absolutely nothing I could do on my own. I recalled the countless times that God had made a way when it seemed there was no way possible. I knew that my life was in His hands and that ultimately His plan would be best. I reaffirmed my total surrender to God’s will. I turned it all over to the Lord and went to bed. Upon waking the next morning, I felt refreshed and at peace with the world and myself. God had taken away my doubts and fears; replacing them with a peace that passeth all understanding [Philippians 4:7]. It was God’s affirmation to me that the decision was indeed His will.
Leap of Faith
With my retirement funds, I invested in the home business I had been dreaming about for months. The Holy Spirit was truly my teacher and guide. He gave me the wisdom and knowledge to get everything into operation quickly. It was gratifying to be able to edit the children’s books to focus on Jesus. I enjoyed personalizing the books and binding them, as well. Everything I attempted to do on the creative end went smoothly and quickly. Alas, in business, it’s not all fun. Bookkeeping, taxes, government regulations; these I found tedious and time-consuming.
Although I was paying someone to care for my mother’s personal needs, she wanted me with her all the time. I wanted to be near her, as well, so I set up my business at her home. As time progressed, she called me away from my work more and more. It was easy enough to handle the hands-on work with the books; creative writing, printing and binding. I was finding it very difficult, however, to launch the sale and distribution of these books. I could make them; but I could not sell them.
Soon, it became necessary to place my mother in a nursing facility. I moved the business to my home; continuing to publish books on request, or as gifts. I took an outside job to subsidize our income while taking care of my mother and the mounting expenses.
The Valley of Darkness
In 1997, I plummeted into the deepest, darkest valley of my life. I lost just about everything that year. I lost my mother, my brother, three jobs, and my home business; not to mention the recent loss of our pastor and wife, who were also good friends. Looking at my circumstances, it seemed that my dream; the desire God had placed on my heart to serve Him, was lost as well. I was physically, financially, and spiritually drained.
After my mother’s passing, I isolated myself from the outside world. I got alone with God and poured out my heart to Him. Just three years earlier, I had stepped out on faith; believing that I was following a path that God had set before me. Purchasing the home business was, in my mind’s eye, to be the basis for establishing a personal ministry for the Lord. The company I was dealing with went out of business. Therefore, I no longer had the resource for supplies and support necessary to maintain and operate my office. Where had I gone wrong? Had I misunderstood what I thought was God’s call on my life? What was I to do now? These questions pierced my soul as I lamented the closing of my home business.
Looking back, I had a confident assurance that I had acted according to God’s will. I had seen God’s hand at work throughout the journey. He had blessed and answered prayers in so many ways. There was one area, however, God did not and would not bless – the sale of the books. I struggled with this reality for a very long time. I could not get a grip on why everything I attempted to do went so smoothly; yet, I had no liberty at all to sell anything. There were times when God blessed me or answered the prayers of others on my behalf about the books. In times of financial need, I would suddenly receive an order or request for books. There were times when I became so discouraged I felt like giving up; but then, God would send me a request for books. God blessed me – He just never blessed the “sale” of the books. I continued to publish them on request or as gifts as long as my computer and software were functional.
A New Beginning
In 1998, the sun began to shine brighter as I saw the dawn of a new beginning. A chapter of my life was ending; and a new chapter was beginning to unfold. God had been at work in the previous months; putting in place the support I would need to realize my dream and fulfill God’s plan for my life. In the weeks just before my mother passed away, Dr. Richard Hughes, and his wife Shirley, came to fill the pastorate at my home church. Shirley Huntley Hughes became my mentor and the dearest friend I have ever had. They are serving as full-time evangelists now and my husband and I are privileged and blessed to have a small part in their ministry. Through the years, Shirley and I have created and distributed countless Daily Bible Reading Schedules. And recently, a Daily Bible Writing Schedule has been made available.
Fiery Furnace
Although I stepped out in faith when purchasing the business, I did not really know how to walk in faith; nor did I know how to totally depend on God. My plan was to use the business as a platform for serving God. Sadly, I did not realize I was not ready for service. I did not know I would have to go through the fiery furnace so that God could burn off the dross on my life. For three years, from the launching of the business to its closing, God left me in the furnace.
In the latter part of 1997 and in the months that followed, I spent many hours reading and meditating in the Word; seeking wisdom and guidance from the Lord. The business was now gone; my plans were history. I depended on my mother most of my life. In her last days, when we both needed support, I became dependent on my brother. Now I was alone; grieving the death of them both. I was financially drained with no job or source of income. All I had left was a fully equipped office and a passionate desire to serve God. On the brighter side, I was no longer under the law or accountable to anyone. I was now in a position to use all the resources at my fingertips as a means to serve my Lord on a full-time basis.
Stripped of every source of moral support or physical means of survival, I learned to totally depend on God. I learned to live my life from day to day, walking by faith; not by sight. I learned that when everyone and everything I thought I needed to survive was gone, I still had God. And, I soon realized God was all I really needed.
God’s Plan
I have come to realize that although my plans and desires may have good intentions, may bless others, and even please God; still, if my plans are not God’s plans, they may never come to fruition. “A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps” Proverbs 16:9. In His time, God spoke to my heart. God revealed to me that He never intended me to operate the resources He had given me as a business for the purpose of profit; “selling” books. God was calling me into ministry; not a business with a ministry focus. I say this with all humility because my mind cannot grasp the reality that Almighty God would direct my path in such a way. Purchasing the business was all just a means to an end. If I had not stepped out on faith, I would not have a platform for serving my Lord.
God’s Provision
Learning to totally depend on God does not happen overnight. It comes through developing a close, personal relationship with Christ. Prayer and meditation in the Word are essential. As I have said, I spent much time praying and seeking wisdom and answers from God. The Holy Spirit opened my eyes, giving me spiritual insight and peace about a couple of things in particular. It was impressed upon my heart that God did not want me trying to sell children’s books, or any other work that I did for His glory. It was also clear that God did not want me working outside the home; I was simply to trust God. I trusted and God proved to be all sufficient in every need.
I have learned from experience throughout these past 20 years that whenever God called me to do something, He gave me the ability and resources to do it as well as the desire. Likewise, when the season for a specific work ended and His blessing was removed, my desires changed as well. My experience has taught me that God is not obligated to bless or provide financial or material resources for anything He has not called me to do. I have learned to put God first in all things, praying not my will, Lord; but Thy will be done. God has never failed to meet my needs through all these years. He has also blessed me with a great many of my “wants” as well. So, in a nutshell, my philosophy in life is to make serving my Lord my priority; and trust God to take care of me.
To Be Used of God
I have found it very gratifying to serve my Lord all these years. I believe there is a distinct difference, however, in serving God and in being used of God to accomplish His will. This concept may be hard for some to understand; but just as difficult, if not more so, to explain. In my mind, serving God is perceived as a generalized term for working out the attributes expected of a Christian. Loving and serving others, praying, witnessing, faithfully attending church, and participating in various ministries of the church; these are all areas of service that we can jump right into motivated by a servant’s heart.
In this most recent chapter of my life, I have come to know and understand more clearly that the Holy Spirit is more than a teacher and guide. The Holy Spirit is my mediator between the will of God the Father and my will. Acknowledging the person of the Holy Spirit, His power and purpose, is essential if I am to be used of God to accomplish His will. I see it like this: I can serve God, motivated by my own will and personal desires, from the pilot or driver’s seat. But, I can only be “used of God” when I set aside my will and active participation; letting the Holy Spirit take control as Pilot of my plans and my life. There is something uniquely different and most fulfilling in my life now that I ride exclusively in the co-pilots seat.
I have come to know myself all too well over these past few years. I know what I can and cannot do on my own. I am fully persuaded that apart from God I can do nothing of any merit. So, whenever the Spirit is moving within my heart, I am super conscious of His presence. I am keenly aware that I am simply a willing vessel; totally surrendered and yielded to His will. Serving God is indeed rewarding; but, as for me, there are no words to express the overwhelming feeling that grips my soul when I am used of God to accomplish a work that I know I could never do on my own. It is my prayer and heart’s desire that if there be any good found in anything that springs forth from my life that God will receive all glory, honor and praise.
My Blog
I am so very thankful now for all those years I spent wandering in the wilderness. I am thankful that God drew me out of my comfort zone; a place of familiarity, spiritual ignorance and complacency. I am thankful, too, for every trial I experienced in those dark, valley years. The greatest lessons in my life were learned in those difficult years. The darkest hour is truly just before dawn. I could share numerous stories of God’s love, mercy and grace through all these years. I have already shared a great many on my blog site: https://isaiah4t31.wordpress.com/. In the future, as God leads, I will share more stories to the blog.
Challenge
In closing, I want to encourage you not to give up on your dreams. Dreams can be a mental preview of what God’s plan holds in store for you. Maybe God has already given you a vision; a dream of something far beyond what you believe is your natural ability to achieve. Just remember, “If the mind can conceive it; if the heart can believe it; by faith in God you can receive it.” If it is God’s will; if you put your faith in God alone, yielding your will to His, you will see that dream blossom into reality in God’s time.